Chapter 37: Masculinity

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Aha! So there you are! I have been looking everywhere for you. Yes YOU, the blog reader of my dreams :).

Masculinity. There are many definitions floating out there, but which one should we follow? Is being masculine owning a fancy car? Wearing a Rolex watch? Being able to fix things around the house? Going to the gym? Being Batman? Or buying roses for the partner at home? Men look outside themselves for answers; to television, film, the billboard advertisements but most importantly, their own friends and partners, for what defines a real man. While any of the above are not necessarily wrong, to say that they define masculinity would be delusional. It is not what a man owns or what he does that defines him, but who he is.

Women are the "threshold guardians" for masculinity. If you want to know whether you are on the right path as a man, ask a woman. Unlike men, they have a thousand ways of probing us for authenticity, and a thousand of years of experience to prove it. This goes back to our primitive times where being "masculine" attributed to being able to protect the tribe from bears, lions, from other tribes who sought to take their women, food and children. The women would select a man as "alpha" if he demonstrated that he could do this. Attraction was survival and replication, and still is today. The masculine man was the man who could ensure their survival as a species, and could therefore carry those strong genes necessary to raise strong sons and daughters.

Nowadays as you have probably guessed, dear reader, we are not being chased by lions or boars. Thank goodness. We are instead confronted with predators in the forms of banks, mortgages, employers, teachers and deadlines. Therefore women nowadays gravitate to men who yes, can provide security, yes, who may be good looking, and strong (good genes): but most importantly, and above everything else, a man of substance. A man of worth. Someone who can give value. In a social world, value is everything.

Chapter 36: Raise the Energy

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Excuse me, I think you have something in your eye. Oh, wait. No. It's just a sparkle :)

Hello, you :). I send my love to you this Easter. This weekend is an empowering time and delivers a timeless message. Resurrection, restoration and fundamentally; hope, for the human race. Forget about the Easter eggs and the rabbits. The real reason why we celebrate Easter is beautiful: Jesus Christ, the Lord and saviour, is risen.

Rise, rise and rise again. We can all rise in His example. Spiritually and emotionally. I am talking about raising the frequency, raising the energy in yourself, raising the energy of the planet. It was Nikola Tesla that described the universe in terms of energy, frequency and vibration. Everything you can see around you, everything that you can touch, is energy. On the deepest subatomic level, we are energy. Therefore the idea of objects being "solid" is an illusion, and as Einstein said: "a persistent one". The importance of this is to understand that we are also frequency, and vibrate at different levels. In my previous post I described us as the true currency of the planet. We have to understand that what we do, changes the world. Half of being a Christian is believing and honouring the scripture; the other half is taking action in your beliefs. Similarly it is not just knowing wisdom, but taking action to make a difference in the world. Jesus' teaching is that we should all rise, and because of his sacrifice, we can make everyday a new day, a new chance, to change yourself and the people around you, for the better. Resurrection is not just for one day alone, but every day, from now on to become the greatest person you can possibly be.

Chapter 35: Penny for a Princess

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Ah, there you are :) Don't worry, this won't take long. You'll still have enough time to go back to heaven, you beautiful thing, you.

Validation. Many of us live in a world of validation. A world where other people's opinions and beliefs shape who we are. I am not just talking about women, but men too, who live in the reality of others and not in their own. The penniless prince, or princess.

This mentality is "fitting in" to societies' expectations. What do my parents think of me? What do my friends think of me? What does the man sitting on the bus think of me? We have this identity (the ego) that is constantly being attacked by people. Their compliments empower us, their criticism shoot us down. Where are you from? What do you do for a living? Where do you live? If you tell them what they want to hear, we feel accepted, perhaps relieved, or more powerful than before. Sometimes we lie to them in the fear of being seen in a negative light.

The problem with this mentality is that we do not know who we are. We cannot define ourselves. We are living in someone else's reality. Society has been engineered to propose a lifestyle that is the "ultimate“. The so called, fame, money and glory. For men it is go to school, do well, get a good job, get lots of money and then, only then, will you be validated. For women it is the same, but most of all, be slim, beautiful, appreciated by everyone, and do not express your sexual desires. While doing these things are apparently for your "benefit", and logically they make sense, they should not be pursued for the ultimate goal of being "complete". Being complimented by a beautiful person in the street may make you feel validated today, but it won't tomorrow. The biggest compliment you can receive is from yourself. It is self love. Not narcissism or cockiness, but an appreciation of your worth. Not the opinion of other people, but a personal validation that you are now, and always will be, enough.

Chapter 34: Nutrition

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We are living in a beautiful time. With so much knowledge available in the digital age, we can learn how we want, and whenever we want. Every book you could possibly want to read, available to purchase in a simple, organized way. If there is one time in the human existence where it is good to be alive, it is right now.

Your body is the only thing that you truly own. It is the greatest object, for it is the vehicle in which you must live your life. Arguably if there is anything that you should invest money in, it should be health. If you are not looking after yourself, then why invest in shares, house property etc? Health is the major cause for happiness and fulfilment.

One of the greatest books I have invested in is "The Ultramind Solution" by Dr Mark Hyman. I strongly encourage you to buy this book if you want further information.

The problems with modern medicine is that it is cures many illnesses, but fails to tackle the underlying causes. A great example of this was illustrated in an advertisement which had a family who was angry at their father for eating sausages and chips. The father replied that he was fine, because he had taken his acid blocking pill. Modern medicine for me, is about wealth, and not health. Instead of encouraging people to change their nutritional lifestyle, they provide the medicine to when things go wrong in their bodies. Pills and antibiotics would be redundant if everyone understood how to avoid those illnesses in the first place. Please understand that the major corporations producing toxic foods have no interests in people's health but rather, what money they have in their pockets.

These toxic foods are adored in the Western World. The reason being is that we live in a society of 9-5 jobs, heavy stress and commitment. People come home looking for instant gratification, pleasure, so to speak, to award their hard work. They crave something "tasty" and "simple" to avoid as much work as possible. Most of the time, what we consider tasty and simple is what is harming us. Fortunately, while food can be our greatest poison, it is also our greatest medicine.

Chapter 33: Elephants Never Forget

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Let me touch your head for a moment. Wait...hold still, very good...wow--now, that's a good brain you have in there :). Welcome back! Today's post is on the mind and the power of memory. This is a subject that I have been engaging with recently. I hope that you go away with some new techniques or at least some positive affirmations that you can use in your everyday life.

The mind is the beacon of the body, the pinnacle of all human accomplishment. As many have remarked, it is the only thing that distinguishes us from our fellow primates. The powers of the mind remain one of the great mysteries. An endless void of magic that science may never completely understand. Perhaps the most beautiful examples are the people who demonstrate the potential of the human brain. People such as Daniel Tammet, a man who has high functioning autism and savant syndrome. In his story, the combined negative effects of these syndromes produced a powerful positive. I strongly recommend you watch him.

Despite the obvious beauty and power of the mind, it is important not to regard it as the entirety of the self. We live in a society that is a prison for the mind. A society that praises "knowledge" and order, but stunts creativity and revolution. It is a society that has bred the critical and creative faculties out of its people. Why? Those running the establishments are the major corporations who gain more profit from people following orders and obeying them, than people who question authority and actively pursue a unique and exciting lifestyle, independent from the state and public opinion. Smile :) it's all good.