Today I am your love doctor, apparently. Give me a hug, how are you doing? I will delve into one of the more complex topics of everyday life. While there are many forms of relationship, the one that I will be focusing on is the romantic sort, between two people, namely, attraction, romance or love.
To me, relationships have always been mirrors. Your partner essentially shows you the flaws in yourself. In most cases (unless they are the type who complains about everything), they will, over time, start to question your flaws and inadvertently try to change you. For the better. I have found that "nagging"，”complaining“ or "winging" are lessons in themselves, which unfortunately, are told in a childish way. Approaching three years in my current relationship, I feel proud to say that I have been taught a lot of things about myself. Things that I wouldn't have known had I not been in a relationship. The result is naturally a positive one. I have become a better person not just for myself but for other people as well. The idea of the mirror is a beautiful metaphor because on a deeper level, your partners happiness represents your own. What you change about yourself will change your partner, and vise versa.
This is why it is important to respect each other's lives as individuals. Society has a painful habit of labelling relationships as "ownership"; that somehow being boyfriend and girlfriend prohibits you from doing x and y because your partner tells you not to.
