Chapter 29: Insecurities

Dear reader

You are a stunning. You are in the top 1% of the population considered gorgeous, sexy and divine. How does it feel to know that every time you smile, the world smiles with you? ^__^

Now, tell me you agree. Oh no! My dear friend, why not? If you happen to be shaking your head, please take a seat. By the end of this post I intend to give you some power. A power that is greater than any drug known to man.

Life is an audience. It is watching you on stage spinning various plates. You have to keep the plates spinning otherwise they fall. These plates are status, good looks, being fashionable, being funny, being taller, being skinny, being prettier, being social. There are many things that life demands from us. What I will show you is that all of these plates can spin by themselves. Drag life onto the stage, and have it perform for YOU.


We need to create our own values to what beauty and success are. We take back our power when we define OUR OWN reality and remove all limiting beliefs. The common denominator is that we are all human beings experiencing this world. We have the freedom, a divine right, to be happy and no belief system is going to tell us otherwise. Therefore just by being yourself, is enough. You are whatever you want to be.

Don't play into the game of comparison. I am talking about comparing yourself to your celebrities, or your pretty friends. I mean comparing yourself to Bill Gates, or your friend Johnny who always did well with the ladies, or Polly who has that handsome boyfriend. To obtain all of these things is never about running the same race as them. Let me tell you. You will always lose that race in the end. Just as Bill Gates did, just as Johnny will, just as Victoria's Secret models will. Why? There will always be someone more beautiful, more wealthy and just better at winning the ladies, in that material reality. If he or she is not alive now, they will be in a year's time. Instead of playing a game that is pointless and creates thousands if stressful thoughts of "I am not good enough", look into that mirror and say you are the best. Who is going to tell you otherwise?

Those who have made it "fame" wise, talk about the same theme: that money, fame and power do not bring you happiness. In fact, I go a step further and say that they actually bring you a lot of pain. You see, the higher you rise, with "beauty", cosmetics, money and standards, the more insecure you become and the harder you will fall. It is a paradox. We obtain all of these material things to feel less secure about ourselves. You feel that if people see you wearing these things, acting that way, that somehow they will respect you, or envy you and so you can escape your insecurities. It is like buying a new pair of jeans. For the first few days we feel great in them. A month later, that feeling is gone. We yearn to be secure again. Therefore who are these people without these material things? They are just people. No--they are even less than people. They are incomplete people.

To be complete is to be naked in the eyes of people. I am not saying that fashion is not important. I am saying wear fashion but as an extension of who you are. Do not wear it because you feel it will get you something, or it will make you feel good about yourself. You should feel good about yourself anyway. You are alive--celebrate it! Similarly, do not feel insecure about your money. The greatest currency in the world is happiness. If you can make yourself happy, and others around you: who cares about how much money you have in your pocket?  Being able to buy people's happiness with money is an insecurity in itself. Learn how to generate your own positive emotions.

The greatest insecurity of young people is how they look. Some people are lucky in the gene pool. Is there a rule then, that says people who are not models cannot be beautiful? Of course not! Beauty is about perception. Society has tuned you down to believe what is beautiful. It is a narrow, narrow, belief. Yet open your eyes and you can see all around you, beautiful people. From the youngest child to the oldest  person, in every wrinkle, and every pore, there is beauty. Real beauty is a complete acceptance of one's self, freedom of outcome, freedom of opinion. Freedom is security.

The art of losing insecurities is letting go. People believe that insecurities are holes in themselves; showing them what they lack. I see them as bags that we shouldn't be carrying. Since the day you were born, you were enough. Drop these feelings of unworthiness and step into a world where you and happiness are the only things that matter. Everyone who pokes fun of you are showing their own insecurities. They poke fun because deep down they have to in order to feel good about themselves.

The game of comparison is redundant, so I say play the game of fulfillment. When I tell you that you're beautiful, it is the truth. Beautiful people are wisdom seekers. Beautiful people can let go. Beautiful people seek nothing but happiness in themselves and others. Insecurities will keep us trapped in a place where everyday is a challenge. Yet whoever you are, whatever you look like, and whatever you possess--you are enough. You always will be.

Peace and Love.